Glad you’re back! That’s a lot of bike miles in one week
. Was it an event?
No workout this morning as I needed to sleep in. Explanation below.
I'd like to crowdsource some parenting advice here.
So last night after I'd gone to sleep, my son (age 16) took the car to drive over to his friend's house, without my knowledge or permission. He's a good driver and wasn't speeding, drinking, or anything of the sort. His two mistakes - first, he shouldn't have been driving as he only has his permit; second, he forgot to turn the headlights on, and that's why he got pulled over by a police officer. The end result is that I got a late night call and had to come down there to get him. The police officer used his discretion and was quite lenient with my son, letting him go with no written or electronic record of anything. I chatted with the officer for a while when I got down there. He had a bunch of complimentary things to say about my son, starting with the fact that he was generally driving responsibly - not speeding, no evidence of drugs or alcohol, was polite and courteous when he got pulled over, immediately admitted he doesn't have his license yet, etc. The police officer also mentioned that my son was absolutely terrified. I had a chat with my son during the car ride home, asking him what happened other than making a very bad decision, reminding him of how lucky he was that he got a very lenient police officer, telling him the consequences could have been much more severe if he'd gotten a "by the book" police officer, etc. Before I even started talking to him he apologized to me several times, and it was genuine.
I think getting pulled over, possibly having to pay a fine of $500, possibly losing his license before he even gets it, having to call me and wake me up in the middle of the night, put enough fear in him that he won't make a stupid mistake like this again. And while he made a stupid mistake, it wasn't as severe as drunk driving, or trying to drive away from the police, or any number of "more stupid" things he could have done. And that makes me lean towards not adding any further consequences onto this. So...opinions, advice?
Epilogue/dark humor: After we got home, I took an Uber back to where he got pulled over, since my other car was still there. When the Uber dropped me off, I was alone on a quiet summer night. In my exhausted state, I quietly said "Fuck you" into the sky - to my late wife for leaving me to deal with shit like this as a solo parent.