I will opine about some stuff since I don't really want to put it on the FacePlace.
I did a 23andme DNA test last year, trying to see if I can find my biological father. found lots of 2nd to 6th cousins on both sides, but not enough info to pin down a common person. I know a last name and the first name he gave to my mom, but have hit dead ends w/ social media, interwebz, etc.
This year, ancestry ran a special and kits were like 1/2 price, so what the heck, I'll do one of those too and order one for my mom and mrbarney too. let's see what ancestry has to say. the ethnicity info came back w/ a bit more detail, so that was pretty cool (turns out my mom is whiter than a loaf of wonder bread) but I seem to hail from Benin/Togo along with my Danish & German maternal heritage. Cool. Also, while building my family tree, turns out my paternal great grandpa emigrated here from Canada. So I'm 1/8th Canuck! woo hoo!
As far as matches go. my closest one turns out to be some old white guy "P" - says we are 1st cousins. Now, I know all of my aunts & uncles and none of them are old enough to have a son this old (looked at his FB) but after looking at the #'s with which we match, seems he would also fall into the 1/2 uncle category. what the what!?! So my cousin J and his wife K and I, along with info we've gleaned from our Aunt and my mom have deduced that this guy is a baby that our grandma gave up for adoption before she married our grandpa. He's two years older than our Aunt, and his ancestry family tree is just him and two "unknowns" for parents. My Aunt noted that on her birth certificate, she wasn't listed as the first live birth, and we know that my gma (she was a nurse) had a pretty serious thing going with a doctor at the hospital she worked at.
So - now we are trying to figure out how to go about talking to P and his son C (new cousin, woo hoo) P hadn't logged into ancestry since October, but then last week he did and I'm sure he was quite confused to see my face staring back at him as a cousin
I wish I could have seen his face. So K and I requested to follow C on Instagram in hopes that we could maybe suss things out that way - as we don't want to inundate a 78 year old guy w/ too much info all at once. mrbarney and I are going back to Denver to visit J & K over memorial day because our aunt will be there too, so we're going to lay some stuff out with her and try to figure out how to proceed. I think all of our cousins will be fine with the info, but my mom and J's sister think that their dad and another uncle might be upset knowing that our gma wasn't perfect.
So much family fun!
On my biological father side, I found a dude that shows to be a 2nd cousin. He actually lives here in Dallas - which is super weird since I was born in Omaha, and his last name is the same last name of what my mom gave me. He seems to be estranged from his father, who is probably a brother or cousin of my BF. but his family tree is locked down tight on ancestry and he hasn't responded to the message I sent him last month. dang it! but it's a place to start and I have a friend that is a big genealogy nut and he's helping me with uploading data and building mirror trees, etc. Maybe I'll find out who he is and meet him (if he's not dead) before the year is out.
and that's all folks!
did DNA tests to find biological father - didn't find him but found out that my maternal grandma had a baby boy that she gave up for adoption before she met my grandpa back in the 40s