After frost on Monday, it's warming back up again. It's currently 53 and 100% humidity (you know, nice crisp fall air
) and is supposed to be back up near 80 by afternoon. Anyway, I ran 5.2 miles. I have quite an audience with the continued utility work, which might motivate me to run slightly faster than I would otherwise.
Last night during DS1's baseball practice, I walked 2 miles at a 4mph pace. I thought about going further, but I was in my jeans and button down and starting to get warm. Didn't want to get sweaty gross in jeans.
Today is SDO.
I'm thrilled it is Friday. I ran 3 miles this morning. It was a good run and tomorrow I'd like to bump up the distance. I have a lighter day and will be home by 5:00. I've been able to get chores done during the week, so I have less to do n the weekend. It is nice to have more time. i have more work, and my schedule is pretty good.
Perfect weather, sorry stormy I like it cooler in mornings and 80 in day. Ran a quick 3 not much time for anything else I'm taking half a PTO day to get G ready for his first scout camp without parents (Webelos go with scouts on Back to BrownSea campout to prepare for scouts) and our school auction is tonight. Theme is 60's. I have a dress, white go go boots, AND I am going to go get false lashes put on today - my friend claims to be an expert and so I will look kind of awesome. Which is very needed as having Gavin going on this trip brings back so many memories of Evan that are very painful and sad. Evan should have been with him. It took me days to drag all the equipment out for Gavin, every piece just broke my heart again.
Good morning. Yesterday was a lazy SDO; today I need to do some kind of workout, but am trying to decide what. I will figure it out soon. I'd like to be outdoors today, but the weather is kind of weird.
Re: the stalking, threats and harassment I mentioned yesterday, I should probably explain that this is a smiting society issue that started on Sept. 4. T-bone was fighting in one of our local "wars" and he appeared to cause two injuries on the field. (I say "appeared" because one of them turned out to not be his fault.) I won't go into the details, because they are pretty long, but basically, people sometimes get hurt in armored combat. This one guy got a cracked forearm, and it was one of those weird things where he jinked just as T-bone swung and got hit in a spot where his armor didn't protect him adequately. A "sh*t happens" moment, basically.
Normally these incidents are investigated and if there was no malice or excessive force involved, it's not a big deal.
However, the current "king" got his panties in a wad and went after T-bone as if he were some sort of terrorist. The situation blew up badly, when it shouldn't have, because this one guy got his ego and sense of spite involved. I think he wanted to show he could punish T-bone somehow...and there is something weird in all this, like, we suspect he was enacting some revenge for childhood abuse or something. T-bone is a big man, and the king seemed fixated on humiliating him. And so he pursued both of us for weeks, both inside the smiting society, where he tried to prevent T-bone from fighting in the SCA for a full year (which is crazy, crazy excessive and only happens when someone literally tries to murder someone else for real while smiting); and out. He violated HIPAA twice by trying to extract privileged medical info from one of T-bone's medical providers; he shared someone else's medical info without permission in an attempt to drive a wedge between T-bone and me; he harassed friends of ours in non-smiting events and in public settings to the point where we felt we couldn't hang out with friends because they would be exposed to his stalking and threats; he tried to ruin our honeymoon by sending threatening, crazy e-mails to us while we were in Kauai (and was only stopped from doing so when another officer of the smiting society restrained him.)
This is a guy who has also been trying to convince me to split up from T-bone ever since I moved out to Colorado last year...which is when he was divorcing his wife. So the creep factor here is high to begin with. Add that to his unhinged and literally illegal actions against us and that may explain the references I have made to having nightmares, feeling stressed out, etc. This has been a crazy couple of months. But it looks like the asshat is going to face consequences. We are consulting with our attorney to figure out if we should take him to court; he is also being squashed within the smiting society by officers who are explaining to him vehemently that he cannot do what he has been doing, and they will be spending some time investigating and debating how best to spank him for it.
So much WTF in here. Glad there are folks in place to help you deal with, sad that you even have to.
Can you do a workout close to either your home or your car so that if the weather changes suddenly you have refuge?
And that is mind boggling about the harassment issue. In any type of combat situation, people can get hurt. Like trail running. You know that going in and you accept the risks. I don't smite but both my kids were in fencing for a while and even though they wore protective gear it was possible to get hurt. Same thing for tae kwon do.
Also this guy way, way overstepped the boundaries, both socially and legally. It does sound as if there are a lot of issues for him (obsession? resentment? power?) and he needs professional help, but that does not excuse his behavior in any way. I'm glad the officers of the smiting group are stepping in to take action, and yes you may need to get a restraining order and possibly press charges against him or sue him, depending on what your attorney says.
Sorry it has been going on this long for you.
2017-11-03 10:38 AM
Exactly. It's a combat sport. You risk getting hurt, even with appropriate armor. The kicker here is that this jerk is pursuing T-bone for causing injuries, but he has ignored or dismissed other injuries caused by other fighters...including the one guy who concussed ME by doing an illegal maneuver during a charge, and hit me so hard that witnesses said I went completely horizontal in the air before dropping to the ground. He has also dismissed or ignored other cracked forearms that have occurred in his presence. So it is clear he is pursuing T-bone with some sort of specific animus.
2017-11-03 10:09 AM
Humm... sounds like a cluster****. I'm sorry you've had to deal with that. No fun at all! In any contact sport there is risk of getting hurt. Smiting seems like the ultimate contact sport for that! If the guy is a real creeper, a do not contact order might be a good idea.
My BFF, the S.W.A.T. captain, has actually suggested a restraining order, with instructions on how to get one. Useful to have friends like that.
So far, the harassment seems to have stopped; apparently someone drilled into this guy that he is at risk for incurring actual real-world penalties. But if he starts up again, I will look into the restraining order.
Sounds like he was secretly in love with T Bone
Ok, I'm back to a computer with a real keyboard so I can comment now. It seems that the "king" let her perceived power go to his head.
And clearly he has a lot of other issues as well. I'm glad that the smiting society officers are taking this seriously. I hope they are able to deescalate the situation and that you can get this guy out of your lives.
This is way over the top. I'm just a little concerned that even though you are doing all the "right" things this guy may not play fair. He sounds totally unhinged.
2017-11-03 9:51 AM
I walked out the front door this morning to SNOW!! Just enough to cover the car and the grass, but not sidewalks or streets. It did mean the gym was empty!
45 min of swimming and synchro drills. Felt so good! And no obnoxious people to report on.
Even the Satellite TV in the locker room was down, so the place was even more quiet!