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- - By old turtle Date 2017-09-15 4:32 PM
When we moved in December 2011 it happened way too quick. Even though we moved all of a mile and a half our moving date was earlier than expected and it was also right at Christmas. I always wanted to make a tracing of the back of the linen closet door where all the height markings of my sons  growing years were recorded. It didn't happen. If I could have just taken the door and replaced it I would have but it was a custom size (as in built by our remodeler). Someone just rang our doorbell. It was the contractor who is now remodeling our old bathroom. He thought we might want the door. I hugged him on the spot. Almost makes me like people.:hug::hug::hug:
Parent - By Mookiethedog Date 2017-09-15 4:46 PM
Wow....that is a big little thing! :hug:
Parent - - By PoopedColt Date 2017-09-15 5:27 PM
:hug::hug::hug: That is AWESOME!! And I can so relate. In our old house, I used to mark the kids on either side of Maggie's pen in the basement. When we moved I was upset about leaving it. When we got to the new house, I found that DH had dismantled the pen and nailed the 2x4s up in the attic. One of the best things he's ever done. :hug: You had better believe when we move again, those things are coming with us. Priceless

That contractor is a good peep. He must be a dad. :hug:
Parent - By old turtle Date 2017-09-15 5:57 PM
So glad you have your 2x4's. (The contractor is a dad.)
Parent - - By The Beard (is wearing Arm Panties) [us] Date 2017-09-15 6:14 PM
That's an adoorable story.

^do you see what I did there?

Parent - - By old turtle Date 2017-09-15 7:47 PM
Yep, I saw what you did. :hug:
Parent - - By Mookiethedog Date 2017-09-15 9:06 PM
It is amazing what heights he will go to for comedy.:hug:
Parent - By old turtle Date 2017-09-16 4:57 AM
True. :hug:
Parent - By Blueberry Sky Date 2017-09-15 6:44 PM
Wow, now that is truly awesome! You must THRILLED! :grin:
Parent - By JimGo1 Date 2017-09-15 7:08 PM
Thats awesome !
Parent - By sideshowbob Date 2017-09-16 5:04 AM
Beautiful--thanks for sharing
Parent - By NotSoFast [ca] Date 2017-09-16 9:18 AM
Parent - By IB [us] Date 2017-09-16 11:58 AM
Parent - By jaszflamus (I like wool!) Date 2017-09-16 2:43 PM
Wow that is awesome! :hug::hug::hug:
Parent - By brneydrnnr (barney cougar) [us] Date 2017-09-18 7:48 AM
- - By PoopedColt Date 2017-09-15 6:15 PM
mine's not as big as old turtle's, but I'm feeling very :hug::hug::hug: at the moment.  Note that I have 19 & 16 y.o. BOYS.  Yesterday was my birthday - and I'm now closer to 50 than 40. : pbbt:  Wednesday afternoon I came down with a stomach virus.  I haven't called in sick to work in like 7-8 years, and on my bday all I could do was lay down and stare in a quiet room. :meh:  But, my 19 y.o. woke up early (for him) to call me at 7:30 to catch me before work to say Happy Birthday, and as soon as I staggered out my door that morning, the first thing my 16 y.o. said was Happy Birthday! :hug: I was too sick to eat any cake or even open presents yesterday, so we waited until today.

My kids told me over the summer they were thinking of getting me a new purse.  Mine functions, but it's old and dirty.  I walked with them through Target and pointed out features that I liked and needed.  And when I opened my present???  They got me a freaking Kate Spade bag! :shocker!::shocker!::shocker!: In exactly what I like size/pockets/etc. If you know me, you know I'm the queen of buying $20 Walmart/Target bags and making them last 5+ years.  I've never expected anything like this! I am floored.  Steven has a lot of contacts through his media accounts, so he said he got it at a good discount - for that I"m very thankful.  Because now I have to learn how to not sling it all over the floor wherever. But wow.  I've got good kids.  Wouldn't trade them for the world. :hug::hug::hug:
Parent - - By Blueberry Sky Date 2017-09-15 6:46 PM
That is fantastic, what great kids you raised/are raising! :hug:
Sorry you were sick on your birthday. :sad: Wait till you are closer to 60 than 50. :cry: : pbbt:
Parent - By PoopedColt Date 2017-09-16 11:06 AM
thanks!  And I know it doesn't get any easier as the years go by... :cry:  But 55 will be a golden one for me.  The day I turn 55 I'm eligible to "retire." :cool:  The quotations marks are because I'll still have to work, but I will be free to go wherever and do whatever I'd like... I don't hate my job or hate my life, but it can be hard at times if you feel stuck.  It's nice to dream.
Parent - By The Beard (is wearing Arm Panties) [us] Date 2017-09-15 6:58 PM
Parent - By JimGo1 Date 2017-09-15 7:09 PM
Very nice !  Thoughtful kids.
Parent - By old turtle Date 2017-09-15 7:49 PM
I love this! Enjoy your new purse. Also, belated Happy Birthday!
Parent - By sideshowbob Date 2017-09-16 5:05 AM
Parent - - By NotSoFast [ca] Date 2017-09-16 9:18 AM
no pics purse didn't happen. we want pics!!!
Parent - - By PoopedColt Date 2017-09-16 11:03 AM
See if this works.

I chuckled that DH didn't know the brand.  But I also confess that I would not have known either if I had not heard about it on these forums. :blush:
Parent - By brneydrnnr (barney cougar) [us] Date 2017-09-18 7:51 AM
that's a great bag! :cool:
Parent - By Arimathea [us] Date 2017-09-17 5:59 PM
Happy birthday! And so nice of your boys for doing that for you.
Parent - By ironjen Date 2017-09-18 8:21 AM
Your kids are the bomb! And you and your hubs have done an excellent job in raising them :hug: Happiest of birthdays to you!
- - By NotSoFast [ca] Date 2017-09-16 9:22 AM
I have decided to donate back at least all the blood and platelets that my son received over the course of his cancer treatments. I figure it was like 3 gallons of blood and probably 1 of platelets. I started yesterday on the 6 month anniversary of his death. It felt really good. I had never donated before. So if any of you can donate please do so, especially platelets, they only last 5 or so days  and cancer patients depend on them dearly.
Parent - By old turtle Date 2017-09-16 9:58 AM
:hug: (this is a big thing.) :hug:
Parent - By The Beard (is wearing Arm Panties) [us] Date 2017-09-16 10:24 AM
That's really great. :hug:
Parent - - By PoopedColt Date 2017-09-16 10:52 AM
:hug::hug::hug: I've often thought about donating platelets. I bldg is next door to the parking lot at work. But I've rationalized telling myself that there's always a long line people waiting to donate and they need $$$ more than I do and also the time factor. But I have a day off Thursday so maybe I can check it out.

(So many hugs to you always)
Parent - - By NotSoFast [ca] Date 2017-09-16 6:07 PM
The platelet they don't pay for (I think it is plasma) or at any rate my OneBlood does not pay for platelets, but it is a longer process almost 2 to 3 hours in that they take your blood out, pull out the platelets, and put the whole blood back in. You usually have to donate whole blood first and they do a platelet check.
Parent - By PoopedColt Date 2017-09-17 3:25 PM
Ah yes... you are obviously correct. I get my bodily fluids mixed up. My hemoglobin is usually too low for blood donation. :sad:
Parent - By Arimathea [us] Date 2017-09-17 6:01 PM
Plasma is what they pay for.
Parent - By Mookiethedog Date 2017-09-16 12:13 PM
Great goal...and hopefully you just keep on donating.  I did 50+ blood donations and tons of platelets until I was told I can't donate anymore (and we don't even get paid to do it).  :hug:
Parent - By Schantzie [us] Date 2017-09-16 8:36 PM
Parent - By Arimathea [us] Date 2017-09-17 6:01 PM
I agree, this is a big thing.

Platelet donation takes a while, be aware. They can and do extract platelets from the whole blood donations, but if you are donating platelets alone it can take a couple of hours hooked up with IVs in both arms, at least it did last time I donated platelets.

The good thing about platelet donation is you can do it 1-2x a week if necessary, whereas whole blood it takes 8 weeks before you can donate again.
Parent - By IB [us] Date 2017-11-08 12:17 PM
- - By Elcontador [us] Date 2017-09-18 3:05 PM
Last month, I visited Montreal for three days, rented a car and drove around Quebec for several weeks.  Had never been there before.

In planning the trip  I looked at tourist literature beforehand and noticed lots of stuff about Montreal and the City of Quebec, but virtually nothing else.  I contacted tourist offices in various parts of Quebec (there's no one central place to get everything about the province any longer), spoke with people and received some literature.  I read about lots of interesting things to see and do which I could not find elsewhere.  So I guessed that the reason I didn't see much else written about these places elsewhere was because the people who visited them were primarily Quebecois.  Turned out I guessed right.

So I got a basic French course with a workbook and CDs.  I was going to do my best to get with the program.  After many hours, and countless mistakes mis-pronouncing many words, getting verb conjugations wrong, etc., I completed it.  I put a google-translate app on my phone, and took off.  I learned as much as I could while there.

There's a lot to see and do in Quebec, but my big take-away from the trip was the people who lived there.  When I was 'on,' I could put together two or three sentences in French and be understood, and understand the responses I received.  Sometimes I had to use my hands and point to objects as well, but more often than not, I was able to make myself understood.  For my efforts, I got lots of smiles, and attention and help with little things I otherwise would have not received.  People genuinely appreciated my effort in trying to learn their language.  Occasionally I'd find a younger person who took the trouble to learn English well, and we both got quite a bit from speaking with one another.

Feeling good about my fellow human being is a very good thing, and I don't feel this way often enough.  I felt that way (as well as bewildered quite a bit) throughout my trip; which was not a vacation, but an adventure.

PS: Quebec is an interesting place to visit, and it isn't all that hard to get to for most of us.  But if anyone tells you, "oh don't worry, everyone speaks English there," once you leave Montreal, don't believe them.  Learn a little bit of French before you go.
Parent - By old turtle Date 2017-09-18 5:17 PM
I loved visiting that area many years ago. At the time I used a bit of my  high school Frenc.It has now been enough years that I no longer have any high school French.:sad:
My husband and I totally loved that area.
- - By IB [us] Date 2017-11-08 12:17 PM
It is very likely that I will be arrested for trespassing soon. I've been watching James Kingston videos on youtube and I've spotted a crane I want to climb.  :grin:
Parent - - By gadget girl Date 2017-11-08 1:18 PM
I doubt you'll get arrested.  Most of the time they fly away before you can climb 'em. 

Parent - By IB [us] Date 2017-11-08 4:23 PM
Parent - - By jaszflamus (I like wool!) Date 2017-11-08 6:51 PM
:laugh: I'd say don't do it, but think that maybe you should do it.
Parent - - By IB [us] Date 2017-11-08 11:07 PM
I probably will do it and just hope to get away with it or at least get away without being charged. I see the thing every day on my way to work and the desire just keeps increasing. I almost ran by there on my way home tonight just to see what the situation looks like at night.
Parent - - By sideshowbob Date 2017-11-09 5:58 AM
Sounds very Freudian .
Parent - By gadget girl Date 2017-11-09 11:57 AM
Parent - - By jaszflamus (I like wool!) Date 2017-11-09 10:41 PM
Parent - - By IB [us] Date 2017-11-09 11:01 PM
Today as I was longingly looking up I noticed a second crane in the distance.  :grin:
Parent - - By sideshowbob Date 2017-11-10 6:45 AM
Beginning to sound like Louis C K :shocker!:
Parent - - By BrookieCookie (Canadian Beaver) Date 2017-11-10 7:57 AM
Oh Louis. :sad: I tried watching some Bill Burr standup last night. It's just not the same. :cry:
Parent - By neustkg (Important) Date 2017-11-17 5:50 PM
Wondering if Daniel Tosh will be the next comedian accused of sexual harrassment???
Parent - - By gadget girl Date 2017-11-20 12:37 PM
Are you avoiding watching Louis CK because of what he did?

Maybe I am alone in this but I do not take into account any personal shortcomings in enjoying the work of an artist.  For example, Celine was a horrible anti-semite and wrote some fantastic books which made a lasting impression on me.   I would happily watch a Mel Gibson movie if he was in something I wanted to see.    Artists are supposed to be on the fringe in many ways no?
Parent - - By tizzy319 (gaping five hole) [us] Date 2017-11-20 1:03 PM
I 1/2 agree.  I have no problem once said individual is dead to enjoy their artistic work.  However, while they are alive, I don't want them profiting from my actions.  It's how I can justify listening to Michael Jackson and not R. Kelly.
Parent - - By gadget girl Date 2017-11-20 2:31 PM
I get it, but I personally don't care about this either as long as they are not convicted criminals.  I  wouldn't pay for a book by a convicted criminal who is capitalizing on her crime
I  believe there are some laws about this anyway.
Parent - - By BrookieCookie (Canadian Beaver) Date 2017-11-20 3:08 PM
How would you feel about The Cosby Show reruns? I was just talking about this with DH ... are they still in syndication?
Parent - - By tizzy319 (gaping five hole) [us] Date 2017-11-21 9:12 AM
I'm pretty sure The Cosby Show isn't in syndication anymore, however 7th Heaven still is. 

I know this wasn't addressed to me, but I've tried watching Cosby again and just can't.
Parent - By BrookieCookie (Canadian Beaver) Date 2017-11-21 9:22 AM
I don't think I could either. It's weird to think Benjamin won't ever casually see an episode on TV. It used to ALWAYS be on TV.
Parent - - By BrookieCookie (Canadian Beaver) Date 2017-11-20 2:00 PM
Yeah I'm just not sure I can do this when someone's art is such an apparent close approximation of their real life. His stand-up is just him talking and seeming so "Right On" but then he's a creepy masturbation forcing dude... it's just not the same. At least there;s still Dave Chappell
Parent - - By gadget girl Date 2017-11-20 3:08 PM
Sure he uses his life in his shtick but that's just it, his shtick is his public persona, not him.  I understand and appreciate what you are saying though, but would probably watch Louis cK in the future.
Parent - - By BrookieCookie (Canadian Beaver) Date 2017-11-20 3:09 PM
I could see myself forgiving him in the future. Of all of the shitheads out there I think he is well poised to make an eventual comeback if he is contrite enough. Maybe.
Parent - - By gadget girl Date 2017-11-20 3:12 PM
I would add that I used to listen to interviews with him on the Mark Marron podcast because Louis CK became famous and he certainly did not come across as anything like an upstanding citizen to me.
Parent - - By BrookieCookie (Canadian Beaver) Date 2017-11-20 3:22 PM
Right that;s fine I don't really want him to be upstanding but he crossed a line for me and it's hard to come back from that. But I liked his apology. People make mistakes and it seemed consensual? Although that's a bit fuzzy and when it's fuzzy is it by default not consent? If so I would have a way harder time forgiving. But overall I'm more mad at Al Franken because American women depended on him to fight the crazy and he's just an objectifying asshole like the rest of 'em. :roll: (Maybe).
Parent - - By gadget girl Date 2017-11-20 5:48 PM
I liked his apology too, although the cynical side of me thought he is just doing this to be able to mine his perversions for more material in the future when people are ready to forgive (like Mel Gibson who seems to have dusted himself off after a few years). 

Yes, it seems that alleged assholes come in all political stripes :shocker!::shocker!:.  I note that some people on my facebook feed are trying to discredit Franken's accuser as a sexual object/hypocrite/liar due to her own possibly ambiguous and/or monstrous conduct which seems reasonable, but regrettably seems to follow a predictable pattern of forgiving/excusing those only who share your political opinions.  Is anyone looking to discredit victims of DT's sexual harrassment?  Nope. 

Also, is anyone entitled to due process anymore? I guess these aren't legal accusations really but since much of this stuff ends up with people fired/blacklisted, it would be nice if the allegations were more carefully scrutinized.
Parent - - By tizzy319 (gaping five hole) [us] Date 2017-11-21 9:24 AM
I certainly agree with wanting this stuff more carefully scrutinized.  While income isn't as much an issue for the celebrities/politicians being outed and fired/blacklisted, it would be if this public scorn extended to the average person.  Many of my clients depend on their abusers being employed for child support or maintenance.  This immediate reaction could harm victims too. 

I hope those people on your feed who are trying to discredit Leeann Tweeden have stopped once the 2nd allegation happened.  I think there is a big difference between 1 and 2 allegations when it comes to this kind of issue since it is rare there is real evidence in this kind of situation (although in Franken's case, there certainly was visual evidence).  It also highlights a pattern of abuse vs one stupid action. 

As for due process, the court of public opinion is vastly different than the judicial system.  I'm still waiting to see who actually loses their job with all of these allegations.  Weinstein certainly lost his as did Spacey and Louis CK.  However, so many others haven't yet (and may never).
Parent - - By Nomad Date 2017-11-21 1:56 PM
This links with part of my discomfort with the way this is playing out; that is, the way in which not watching/cancelling a program affects the others involved; why should some random camera operator or assistant lose their job because Kevin Spacey is a creep so Netflix cancels his show. And similarly why can't someone want to watch House of Cards because of Robin Wright, what did she do to lose her job & have her resume besmirched? The examples you gave above of musicians are a little easier but even then, what if someone else wrote the song & was getting the royalties and now doesn't due to the actions of the singer.

And as much as it certainly appears that these assholes are assholes, when does believing the accuser as soon as they speak up cross the line from innocent until proven guilty? Which goes back to pubic opinion vs. judicial system. I have, perhaps, a slightly different view on this after the UK's Operation Yewtree post-Jimmy Saville ended up finding some accusations to be unsafe/false after years of investigation in the public eye, in addition to happily throwing into jail a number of abusers who'd been hiding behind celebrity.

It's all such a mess; seems the best we can hope for is that in future people feel empowered to speak up earlier so that the law can be involved from the start and abuse can be dealt with as the criminal offence it is.
Parent - - By jaszflamus (I like wool!) Date 2017-11-21 8:19 PM
It really is a mess. Until a couple days ago, I was convinced all the revelations were a good thing for awareness and accountability. But my wife and I were talking yesterday how we're bordering on desensitization which is the opposite of awareness and accountability. And that's how the USA's abuser-in-chief today could come out flatly in support of Roy Moore.

Obviously, I don't know the UK assholes as well as the US assholes but they all are part of the mess. The sheer number of accusations whether proven, disproven, admitted or denied desensitizes us. Personally, I believe almost all of the accusations. But I also think that that the swampy landscape now allows for flat denial and victim-blaming by the abusers and abuser-supporters. That is wrong and sad.
Parent - - By triplejake (The Vampire Lestat) [us] Date 2017-11-22 10:38 AM
I think desensitization is the wrong response (though it may be a natural one) to the wave of allegations -- I think the takeaway is that this is not a "few bad apples" issues, it is a systemic one  that will require pretty dramatic steps if it is ever going to change.   Perhaps that will include some overcorrection in circumstances like employment and public estimation where due process does not apply, but it seems pretty clear that there has been a lot of undercorrection to this point.
Parent - By IB [us] Date 2017-11-22 2:27 PM
Thank you for that post.
Parent - By jaszflamus (I like wool!) Date 2017-11-22 6:07 PM
Yes, absolutely it's a bad response but like you say it's natural for some people and we've all seen that response lately in friends, media and/or political leaders. And that scares me because it really is a systemic problem and not one to be dismissed or to blame/deny the victim or blame a few bad apples. I do believe that the torrent of worse and lesser things helped Moore, our abuser-in-chief, and Kellyanne to deny, which basically attacked the victims.

As you know, my prime directive is due process. But like you say, there probably has been undercorrection and I'm all for overcorrection in employment, associations, public media, social media and everywhere else. Out and burn the fuckers even if some innocents get burnt. (Yeah, that goes against my prime directive.) My concern here isn't due process, but that the sheer volume of old things coming out now waters down the more serious things like Moore and allows cover to deny, deny and deflect. With the deflection targeting the victims. What could be more wrong than that?

Don't get me wrong. Mrs. flamus and I are horrified and saddened by each and every report, and we're not desensitized. But we recognize that other people are, and that's what is scary.
Parent - By LDR (100 Mile Stud) [us] Date 2017-11-23 8:03 AM
...this is not a "few bad apples" issues, it is a systemic one..."

Much of this reminds me too much of college frat party stuff, and I wonder if the correction doesn't need to start there, if not high school.  It's like some of these people never grew up, not that these types of behaviors are any more acceptable when we're young.
Parent - By jaszflamus (I like wool!) Date 2017-11-10 9:33 PM
Parent - - By mutiger [us] Date 2017-11-10 5:30 PM

ETA: You are too precious and have a lot of talent, please don't do stupid stuff that will end you in lockup.
Parent - - By jaszflamus (I like wool!) Date 2017-11-10 9:40 PM
You're getting soft, mut. In the immortal words of Tom Cruise in Risky Business, sometimes you just gotta say wtf.

I'll never forget you and Dude jumping out of newmama/ella's car in downtown cincy to continue the action all those years ago. That was a total risky business moment, and one which I totally respect to this day. :cool:
Parent - - By foggydoggy [us] Date 2017-11-17 6:43 PM
I really want an old Porsche 928 (The "Uboat" in the movie) just so I can get vanity plates "SUMTIMZ"  If the DMV asks.... I work in accounting.  I've also thought about "MANOPAWS" on any sportscar.

IB be careful but follow you heart, so long as your brain has a realistic exit strategy and your wallet has bail money.  I will also share some advice from a former coworker.  "If you are going to get drunk and climb the GG bridge towers you should do the north tower.... The Marin county jail is much nicer than the SF jail."
Parent - By Arimathea [us] Date 2017-11-20 1:55 PM
Parent - By jaszflamus (I like wool!) Date 2017-11-20 4:19 PM
Parent - By gadget girl Date 2017-11-21 4:38 PM
Parent - By gadget girl Date 2017-11-20 12:37 PM
- - By sideshowbob Date 2017-11-21 1:37 PM
DD #1 home for the holidays--seems like she never left :hug:
Parent - By jaszflamus (I like wool!) Date 2017-11-21 4:21 PM
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