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- - By N70SAK Date 2017-07-26 10:57 AM
Every fucking day it's more bullshit from the wacked out conservatives. :mutmad: just learned of the new ban on transgender military service. Woke up to a McCaine lovefest on FB. A few words now does not earn him respect from me.
Parent - - By jalashkar (Yahd) Date 2017-07-26 11:20 AM
I need help from some of you more learned Constitutional scholars.  : pbbt:

This ban of his, is this for real?  Is thing something he can actually decree unchallenged, or is there still a measure that could prevent this from becoming real?
Parent - By tahoeblue (spamkiller) Date 2017-07-26 11:50 AM
Commander in Chief
Parent - By JimGo1 Date 2017-07-26 11:37 AM Edited 2017-07-26 11:40 AM
AMERICA FIRST !!!!!  Enjoy the trip to 1950....

The republicans must be waiting on a tweet to see what they are supposed to do on healthcare.
Parent - By Xtreme Taper Date 2017-07-26 12:34 PM
I started watching house of cards season 5 last the other night and of course asked myself why not just tune into the fake news instead.
Parent - By N70SAK Date 2017-07-26 6:38 PM
where do you place the threshold on gender identification? Like so many things the right fails to understand is that there is no clear distinction and everyone's sexual identity is dynamic. Transgender should be thought of as trancendence, not necessarily transitioning from one to the other. :meh:
Parent - By Mookiethedog Date 2017-08-09 1:41 PM
People who back in when they park!!!!  :laugh:

Yours in originality,
Mook
- - By jalashkar (Yahd) Date 2017-07-26 11:21 AM
We still do these?  Cool.

My company is becoming Office Space.  5 different people come to me with the same question/concern and they have no idea that anyone else is doing so.
Parent - - By The Beard (is wearing Arm Panties) [us] Date 2017-07-26 11:22 AM
But you've got a kick ass stapler, right?
Parent - - By jalashkar (Yahd) Date 2017-07-26 11:50 AM
Well, I used to.
Parent - By The Beard (is wearing Arm Panties) [us] Date 2017-07-26 11:58 AM
Burn the place down.
Parent - - By N70SAK Date 2017-07-26 6:36 PM
I'm going to school with a real life Spongebob who wants to work in aviation. :cry: It is so nuts i can't even fully describe it here.  But he constantly fails written tests and is always claiming that the next test is the last one and he's moving on to Airframe.  Aside from his absolute lack of attention, he has this obsessive need to make odd racist, sexist, homophobic, antisemitic, etc. comments.

Today this all boiled to a head, after a few people told him off last week. I've come close myself. I sternly warned him about his use of the word faggot and I've had to,on a couple occasions, explain that this is very serious business and his approach of memorizing answers without understanding the material would lead to people getting hurt or killed........ Anyway... He told his mom. This morning the vice principal of the whole LAUSD occupational center had to come in. One by one, a few people were called out of class and questioned. One by one, our instructor kept getting phone calls for the next to be haled in. (Not me. I never threatened or directly insulted this jerk. )  It was nutty. : pbbt:

And why would you think it was okay to stop venting? :wtf:
Parent - - By The Beard (is wearing Arm Panties) [us] Date 2017-07-26 8:11 PM
Are you feeling it now, Mr. Krabs?
Parent - By N70SAK Date 2017-07-27 5:25 AM
"We're all Squidward."
Parent - By jalashkar (Yahd) Date 2017-07-27 7:25 AM
You're going to miss the panty raid...
- By cowboyjunkie Date 2017-07-26 12:46 PM
i totally f'd up a simple wallpaper removal in my little half bath off the kitchen. I just had a new floor put in in the kitchen and little bath and thought I would take advantage of the sink and toilet being pulled out of there.. :cry::roll:

the more i watch what's going on politically, the more i realize the idiot will be there this term and probably next. even it there is incontrovertible evidence of wrong doing/illegalities by mueller or anyone else, NOTHING will come of it. it will just become more fodder for outrage (or praise), but Congress will not act, the cabinet will not act so we are stuck/doomed.
- - By stickywicket Date 2017-07-26 1:13 PM
I ran in to work last week with ministicky in the stroller so my work bag/clothes and his backpack were all stuffed in the basket below. Drop mini off at preschool and get to work only to realize one of my work shoes fell out along the route. Had to wear running shoes the rest of the day. It took me a few days to be able to retrace my steps but with over 3 miles to cover, no luck finding it. It was my favorite comfy shoe.:cry:

Every once in a while you see a lonely single shoe on the street and wonder how the heck that happened. How does one lose a single shoe out on a walk without noticing? Well, now you know.
Parent - By old turtle Date 2017-07-26 1:41 PM
:cry:
Parent - - By IB [us] Date 2017-07-26 5:33 PM

>Every once in a while you see a lonely single shoe on the street and wonder how the heck that happened. How does one lose a single shoe out on a walk without noticing? Well, now you know.


I'm sorry but...  :laugh:  that was really funny, not your situation but your explanation.
Parent - - By cowboyjunkie Date 2017-07-26 6:39 PM
:laugh: I agree. It made me think of this little stuffed Burt doll I found on a run last year. I couldn't leave him all alone in the street without Ernie. But now Ernie must be wondering where he is :cry::laugh:
Parent - By IB [us] Date 2017-07-26 10:20 PM
:laugh:
Parent - By stickywicket Date 2017-07-26 10:31 PM
:laugh: poor Ernie.
Parent - By Bertorama [us] Date 2017-08-08 1:55 PM
:sad:
Parent - - By IB [us] Date 2017-07-26 10:21 PM
I'm not kidding, tonight I ran by a single shoe on the path next to Lake Merritt & of course I immediately thought of this.
Parent - By stickywicket Date 2017-07-26 10:30 PM
:laugh:
Parent - By cowboyjunkie Date 2017-07-27 7:37 AM
:laugh:
Parent - By sideshowbob Date 2017-07-27 9:49 AM
Was it a penny loafer ?
- By N70SAK Date 2017-07-26 6:42 PM
Procrastinating. :cry:  There are two days left in the Summer session. :hug:  But Physics is the last topic and and there's a ton of written work and math... levers, pulleys, hydraulic pistons... not hard. I just don't want to do anything after the long drive home. : pbbt:
- By sideshowbob Date 2017-07-27 12:40 PM
It's sometimes very difficult to communicate with folks who are both intelligent and closed minded.:roll:
- - By N70SAK Date 2017-08-05 12:12 PM
:meh:Trying to adopt a kitten. I'm getting the run around from the Humane Society because I don't have written proof(park manager is out of town) that I'm allowed to have two cats. I put on the application that the reason I'm getting a cat is because one of two just passed. If I checked the box saying I owned instead of renting. I would not be in this stupid bureaucratic mess.

But it's cool if I plan to use a cat for pest control. : pbbt:
Parent - - By N70SAK Date 2017-08-05 12:18 PM
Problem solved! I will be picking up a 3 month old black medium haired girl kitty.:hug:
Parent - - By Blueberry Sky Date 2017-08-05 12:54 PM
What is her name? :hug:

I simply can't wait to get my own place in October and adopt an older kitty that no one else wants. :hug:
Parent - - By N70SAK Date 2017-08-05 4:04 PM
Prill, short for Halrloprillalar Hotrufan, a character from Ringworld. :blush: 

She's running around smelling all the new smells. :hug:
Parent - By Blueberry Sky Date 2017-08-05 4:50 PM
:hug::hug::hug:
Parent - By ironjen Date 2017-08-06 4:36 AM
:hug::hug:
Parent - By The Beard (is wearing Arm Panties) [us] Date 2017-08-07 4:06 PM
::cool:
Parent - By Arimathea [us] Date 2017-08-08 1:12 PM
Congratulations on the new kitty!
- - By sideshowbob Date 2017-08-07 3:59 PM Edited 2017-08-07 4:23 PM
Having MRIs done while sedated by Atavan and being serenaded  by a cacophony of machine noises is a very  interesting concept. Maybe the effect is observed in folkis  who attention Trump rallies .
Parent - - By sideshowbob Date 2017-08-07 8:25 PM
Sorry for the typos-still a little high   :grin:
Parent - By stickywicket Date 2017-08-08 4:41 AM
:laugh::hug:
- - By stickywicket Date 2017-08-08 4:50 AM
My parents' 20+ yr old cat died.:sad: She survived being poisoned. She managed to avoid hungry jackals and speeding cars. She held her own reaching a cold peace with both our dogs. She was a weird cat whose meow sounded like a crying infant (due to the poisoning incident), and loved company.  Farewell, sweet kitty.

They discovered that she died when they got back home after being evacuated cause of raging fires 200m from their house. Thankfully the winds cooperated and fire brought under control.

Work's just been shit.
Parent - By sideshowbob Date 2017-08-08 5:14 AM
:sad:
Parent - By N70SAK Date 2017-08-08 6:21 AM
:hug:
Parent - By Arimathea [us] Date 2017-08-08 3:42 PM
:sad::hug:
Parent - By cowboyjunkie Date 2017-08-08 7:17 PM
:hug:
Parent - By elmtree Date 2017-08-11 8:50 AM
:sad::hug:
- - By N70SAK Date 2017-08-12 8:25 AM
Mother fucking white power shitheads marching with torches.  And they claim the left antagonizes.  This shit has to stop.
Parent - - By Mookiethedog Date 2017-08-12 9:04 AM
I like a person who can really vent.  Two thumbs up!
Parent - - By N70SAK Date 2017-08-12 12:42 PM
I'm going to finish my aviation mechanic's certificate and I'm going to specialize in float planes and helicopters, I'll learn French along the way(took some in jr.high) and disappear into the South Pacific.  That's my plan if this fascist shit keeps building momentum. : pbbt:
Parent - By Mookiethedog Date 2017-08-12 2:48 PM
Sounds like a good plan regardless of where all this shit is heading:hug:
Parent - - By JimGo1 Date 2017-08-12 8:19 PM
Canada has a good vibe right now but there is winter....
Parent - By N70SAK Date 2017-08-12 8:53 PM
Fuck that. It's cold and Trudeau is just a friendly oil company whore. : pbbt: Canada's Feyd to our Rabban. :mutmad:
Parent - - By sideshowbob Date 2017-08-13 1:53 PM
Have you read Michener's Tales of The South Pacific or watched the musical ?
Parent - - By Mookiethedog Date 2017-08-13 1:57 PM
I watched Grease about 40 years ago
Parent - - By sideshowbob Date 2017-08-13 4:51 PM
:roll:
One of the characters in the book is a Frenchman who survived WW1 and decided he wanted to avoid the turmoil in Europe so he emigrated to the Solomon Islands and became a farmer . That area was later invaded by the Japanese and was the scene of many battles .
Thought you might like a bit of trivia .:wink:
Parent - By Mookiethedog Date 2017-08-13 5:28 PM
love the region and the trivia...people generally fuck up the best plans
- - By stickywicket Date 2017-08-13 2:07 PM
i need a confession thread.
Parent - By Mookiethedog Date 2017-08-13 3:26 PM
I think you need to wait until Humpday but then again people seem to bitch regardless.

Anyway...confess to me and I won't tell anyone
- - By The Beard (is wearing Arm Panties) [us] Date 2017-08-15 1:50 PM
I took the Insight in for a routine service appointment this morning. It was going to cost $185.

I just got off the phone with the dealership and there's additional work to be done on the front suspension. Approximately $1400 worth of work.

:cry::cry::cry::cry::cry::cry::cry::cry::cry::cry::cry::cry::cry::cry::cry:
Parent - By Mookiethedog Date 2017-08-15 2:15 PM
Sounds like you weren't happy to hear their insight
Parent - - By jalashkar (Yahd) Date 2017-08-15 2:22 PM
Hmm.  Sounds like an Audi would have been cheaper.  : pbbt:
Parent - - By The Beard (is wearing Arm Panties) [us] Date 2017-08-15 2:59 PM
:cry:
Parent - By The Beard (is wearing Arm Panties) [us] Date 2017-08-16 2:02 PM
In the car's defense, this is the first non-routine maintenance expenses we've seen.
Parent - By sideshowbob Date 2017-08-15 3:09 PM
Man--that's outasight !
- - By triplejake (The Vampire Lestat) [us] Date 2017-08-15 3:22 PM
This President is really terrible :mutmad:
Parent - By The Beard (is wearing Arm Panties) [us] Date 2017-08-15 4:39 PM
This.
Parent - By elmtree Date 2017-08-15 4:52 PM
You misspelled racist. And bigot.
Parent - By stickywicket Date 2017-08-15 8:21 PM
Can the US - and the world - survive this? I keep wondering if there's a point of no return...
Parent - By sideshowbob Date 2017-08-15 8:28 PM
When is the Republican establishment going to say enough already , in public , put country before party and  begin impeachment proceedings ? Or am I asking too much ?
Parent - By ironjen Date 2017-08-16 6:01 AM
Understatement of the century :meh:
Parent - - By BrookieCookie (Canadian Beaver) Date 2017-08-16 6:42 AM
I saw a forumite (I forget his runango user name!) comment on something on FB and made the mistake of clicking on the thread which was some midwest newspaper comments to an article or whatever. OMG you have a major problem with racist nazi fucks over there so Trump must know he's got a supportive audience! I feel like this is the price we all have to pay for having a relevant black President. America was so not ready for the Obama aftermath apparently!!
Parent - By cowboyjunkie Date 2017-08-16 6:49 AM
Those kind of comments are common. Not just in the mid-west. It is one of the reasons I thought the giant orange turd would win when many others dismissed him.
Parent - - By elmtree Date 2017-08-16 9:58 AM
tizzy and turkeyfoot is my guess about which thread it was.
Parent - - By BrookieCookie (Canadian Beaver) Date 2017-08-16 11:00 AM Edited 2017-08-16 11:17 AM
No JR are the initials of the actual person I don't remember his user name here tho.

ETA: He is not a crazy alt right wingnut he was just responding to one.
Parent - By N70SAK Date 2017-08-16 11:11 AM
WTF ever happened to wharfrat? : pbbt:
Parent - - By elmtree Date 2017-08-16 12:01 PM
cutter? (who is very muchly NOT a crazy alt right wingnut)
Parent - - By BrookieCookie (Canadian Beaver) Date 2017-08-16 12:05 PM
yes! phew thanks. He's more "alt left" whatever that means :roll:
Parent - By elmtree Date 2017-08-16 12:53 PM
I was like who is OH RIGHT THAT'S WHO SHE MEANS!

People can call me that if they feel the need to call me anything.  I'm fine with it.  Better than being a GD nazi.
Parent - By mkh (Mr. Fashionista) Date 2017-08-25 7:43 AM
Don't let his liberal Subaru driving exterior fool you. He's a diehard Trump supporter.
Parent - - By JimGo1 Date 2017-08-16 10:59 AM
Yes but his supporters are still backing him including a lot of my family :cry:   You can't even talk to them about him they are so defensive and write it off as the national media reporting unfairly :wtf:  I like Justin Trudeau but can still be critical of some things he does and not agree with him or say I think that he was wrong there etc.  but they won't acknowledge that he is doing anything wrong.   I now understand how Nazi Germany happened.   I bet he gets re-elected but hope it doesn't happen.
Parent - - By ironjen Date 2017-08-16 11:34 AM
I am assuming some of our family members are still supporting him. However I don't know for certain because 2 of them I unfriended and blocked and the other 2 (of the really bad ones) I changed friend status and unfollowed them so I don't see the shit they post.
Parent - By JimGo1 Date 2017-08-16 12:36 PM
I'm a liberal, left wing person apparently these days but I can atleast look at what the supposed "alt left" is doing and not agree with their methods in some cases.   I agree with the point of they are trying to make but I don't like some of the methods.   I disagree with the alt right and the right on about every issue but I can support their right to demonstrate in a rational, non-confrontational way.  I would like to see a more rational, calm approach to disagreements from both sides.   I can understand the outrage but I'm not sure if we'll get anywhere with both sides raging on each other.
Parent - By BrookieCookie (Canadian Beaver) Date 2017-08-16 11:37 AM
Don't even say that! :cry:
Parent - By N70SAK Date 2017-08-16 11:52 AM
More realistically, who do we run against Pinhead Pence, if this turd is actually removed from office.
- - By N70SAK Date 2017-08-16 12:28 PM
Donald Dumbass disbands Manufacturing Council before the rest can bail out.: pbbt::laugh::mutmad:
Parent - By JimGo1 Date 2017-08-16 1:05 PM
:laugh:
Parent - By BoredTemp [us] Date 2017-08-16 1:41 PM
"you didn't quit, I fired you!!!"  :mutmad::laugh::roll:
Parent - - By The Beard (is wearing Arm Panties) [us] Date 2017-08-16 2:01 PM
If this Presidencey was a political TV drama people would criticize it for being too unbelievable.
Parent - By jennyO Date 2017-08-16 4:32 PM
The transcript of his press conference yesterday read totally like the David Foster Wallace satire of a ridiculous imbecile president in Infinite Jest.
- By callie [ca] Date 2017-08-17 11:11 AM
The world sucks. Adulting sucks. Sucky suck suckfest. :mutmad:
- By N70SAK Date 2017-08-17 11:27 AM
In spite of the mild summer I've been getting, globally, July was another record breaker.:mutmad:
- By N70SAK Date 2017-08-20 2:19 PM
I've had it with Facebook. I totally purged my friends list of the scant 31 people other than my mom and SIL. : pbbt: I'm leaving it open for emergency contact purposes only. 

I'm sick of the ads, the trolls on my favorite sites, stupid memes, horoscopes, etc.
- - By stickywicket Date 2017-08-24 3:33 AM
Well, a confession thread never materialized, so I'll post this over here to ease my guilt. A friend came over for dinner last weekend with her devoutly Mormon mom who's visiting from the US. They mentioned no dairy and no onions as food restrictions. I made a roast, some salad, friend brought over a dish she made, altogether quite a nice meal. After dinner, I offered tea or coffee and her mom was like, oh no, I don't drink alcohol, or tea or coffee and then they launched into a discussion about how growing up, her mom was known as the town sinner because she dared order a mocha flavored milkshake.:shocker!:

Well, when I was making the roast, I remembered I had a rub left over from earlier in the week that was super tasty. I thought, ah, perfect, I can finish up the rub on the roast. That last minute inspiration turned out quite good, if I may say so myself. But guess what the secret ingredient in the rub is.:shocker!::cry::cry:

If you're looking for a good rub: recipe
Parent - - By N70SAK Date 2017-08-24 6:51 AM
:evil:
Parent - By N70SAK Date 2017-08-24 6:53 AM
both the Mormon kids in my boy scout troop became speed freaks. :P I'm not entirely free of blame for some of their pot smoking. :meh:
Parent - - By elmtree Date 2017-08-24 8:26 AM
It wants a login but I'm guessing coffee? :laugh::laugh::laugh:
Parent - By N70SAK Date 2017-08-24 2:39 PM
yes
Parent - - By Arimathea [us] Date 2017-08-24 3:37 PM
Oops. At least you didn't press glasses of wine on Mom, or serve penne alla vodka.

I doubt there was much caffeine in the rub since you were finishing it up.
Parent - - By stickywicket Date 2017-08-24 5:48 PM
Oh, there was quite a bit. It's the main ingredient. :blush:

The major ethical dilemma was, do I say anything?
Parent - - By Arimathea [us] Date 2017-08-25 9:35 AM
No. She'd already eaten it.

This is a choice not an intolerance, as far as I can tell, and she did not knowingly choose to consume it so in my book she has not violated her beliefs.

I'm a longtime vegetarian and I'm sure I have occasionally consumed a food that unbeknownst to me had chicken broth or lard or gelatin in it. While I would not choose to eat it and would avoid it if I knew of the animal product, I'm not going to beat myself up over the inadvertent and unconscious consumption.

Now, if she said "ooh, that roast was delicious, could I please have the recipe for the rub?" then you might have a dilemma, because you would be giving her a list of the ingredients and she would then be aware of what was in it.
Parent - - By stickywicket Date 2017-08-25 9:58 PM
Uh oh. We had dinner together yesterday. I didn't think until later but does red wine vinegar count? :shocker!:
Parent - By Arimathea [us] Date 2017-08-28 10:01 AM
I think you're OK on that too. Red wine vinegar is spoiled wine and it's not as if you and she were drinking it to get drunk.

BTW, my earlier "she didn't know, you're fine" was also written with the understanding that you did not know about her avoidance of coffee until after you had served the roast.

And some other things seem OK -- I've never heard anyone say "I can't have that cookie since you put vanilla in the batter and vanilla is 35% alcohol".
Parent - - By Nomad Date 2017-08-25 9:59 AM
Hmm, I think this is a 'do unto others' situation. What would you do if you'd violated kosher rules or added some bacon into a meal that was given to a Muslim friend? I don't have any idea how observant you & your family are yourselves, but assuming you are to some degree, would you want to know if someone had made an honest mistake and put you in the same situation?
Parent - By N70SAK Date 2017-08-25 10:06 AM
I thought it was great opportunity to experiment but both the subject and observer have to die to get the most certain answer.:meh:
- - By triplejake (The Vampire Lestat) [us] Date 2017-08-25 11:37 AM
Bon Iver tickets went on sale at 10am this morning and were sold out at 10:01am this morning.  :mutmad:
Parent - - By insistor (needs a bigger dick) Date 2017-08-25 11:58 AM
:cry: I saw him this summer at Rock the Garden and it was amazing. I got pretty close to the front and most of the people around me were crying (also, most of the people around me were stoned). https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DJ5X8OelEgs
Parent - - By The Beard (is wearing Arm Panties) [us] Date 2017-08-26 3:41 PM
Bon Iver is fine background music but I just can't sit and really listen to them. I lose interest almost immediately.

I saw them at Eaux Claires a few years ago. I wasn't impressed* but saw a lot of tearful people in the crowd.

*as much as it sound like it I'm not trying to be the guy that doesn't like what everyone else likes
Parent - By N70SAK Date 2017-08-26 5:01 PM
Mmm... eclairs... aghghghghgh.............
- - By IB [us] Date 2017-08-27 9:16 AM
My old hand held has pretty much lost all of the elasticity it once had. I went shopping for a replacement. The old one was what I'd call a universal bottle fit, pretty much any generic sports bottle would work. Now I see that every damn company has their own bottle type so that you have to buy their bottle to go with the holder.  :mutmad:
Parent - - By NotSoFast [us] Date 2017-08-28 1:13 PM
so...I just read that as "my old hand has lost all of its...." and wondered if IB had a prosthetic and didn't remember any of that...wondered how you shop for a replacement hand......:laugh:
Parent - By JimGo1 Date 2017-08-28 1:16 PM
Yeah me too :laugh:   Aren't there exercises for that ?  Hand yoga or something ?!?!?
- - By callie [ca] Date 2017-08-28 1:11 PM
I drove my husband to rehab a few days ago. It's all pretty surreal. I don't know how I managed to find myself in a marriage in pretty severe crisis twice now. I guess I'm just talented?:wtf:
Parent - By insistor (needs a bigger dick) Date 2017-08-28 1:16 PM
:cry::hug:
Parent - By redraider0528 (Fashionista) Date 2017-08-28 1:18 PM
So sorry. Thinking positive thoughts for you. :hug::hug::hug:
Parent - By triplejake (The Vampire Lestat) [us] Date 2017-08-28 1:42 PM
So sorry Callie.  :sad::hug::hug:
Parent - By Nomad Date 2017-08-28 2:05 PM
:hug: he's getting help which is the most important thing :hug:
Parent - By The Beard (is wearing Arm Panties) [us] Date 2017-08-28 2:06 PM
Best of luck to him and the rest of your family. :hug:
Parent - By BrookieCookie (Canadian Beaver) Date 2017-08-28 2:15 PM
Oh no I'm so sorry! I'm texting you but no presh. :hug:
Parent - By runnertype [us] Date 2017-08-28 4:09 PM
rehab is a positive step though. Please let us know if you need support or have questions, perhaps we can help.

:hug::hug:
Parent - By JimGo1 Date 2017-08-28 4:12 PM
Sorry and hope things improve.
Parent - By elmtree Date 2017-08-29 10:37 AM
I'm so sorry. :hug:
Parent - By cowboyjunkie Date 2017-08-29 11:08 AM
:hug:
Parent - By Arimathea [us] Date 2017-08-29 2:50 PM
I'm sorry. Hang in there.
Parent - By tizzy319 (gaping five hole) [us] Date 2017-08-30 10:06 AM
:hug::hug::hug:
Parent - By brneydrnnr (barney cougar) [us] Date 2017-08-30 10:37 AM
hopefully this will help to strengthen your marriage and your family. :hug:
Parent - By Annie Date 2017-09-01 8:37 AM
I'm so sorry you're going through this. I saw your post on FB of closing the consignment shop due to personal issues.
You're in my thoughts and wish I could do more.
:hug::hug::hug:
Parent - By noel (Kilotons of Honky Tonk Badonkadonk) Date 2017-09-01 11:23 AM
:sad::hug::hug:
- - By BrookieCookie (Canadian Beaver) Date 2017-08-28 2:18 PM
I'm scared of your stupid fascist horrible President. Why how WHY is he still in power??!
Parent - By callie [ca] Date 2017-08-28 2:31 PM
Ditto.
Parent - By The Beard (is wearing Arm Panties) [us] Date 2017-08-28 2:43 PM
This
Parent - - By triplejake (The Vampire Lestat) [us] Date 2017-08-28 3:45 PM
Amazingly, he still has the support of most GOP voters, and the GOP Congress is going to be wary of doing anything about him until that changes. :meh:
Parent - - By BrookieCookie (Canadian Beaver) Date 2017-08-28 5:06 PM
I cant even believe what a piece of crap human he is and he's the President of the United States! It's in-SANE and so scary :cry:
Parent - By triplejake (The Vampire Lestat) [us] Date 2017-08-28 5:38 PM
It is certainly a shocking and horrifying moment in history.  :sad:
Parent - - By JimGo1 Date 2017-08-28 4:21 PM
:sad:  Unfortunately he has the support of the Republican party and its base.  I would go so far as to say he is a hero to them although they would be unlikely to admit it.
Parent - - By BrookieCookie (Canadian Beaver) Date 2017-08-28 5:08 PM
How are so many Americans so racist? I thought most people in the US really believed in equality but Damn Republicans just don't care about people of color AT ALL.
Parent - - By sideshowbob Date 2017-08-28 5:22 PM
With all due respect , you folks could improve your relations with the First Nation members
Parent - By BrookieCookie (Canadian Beaver) Date 2017-08-28 5:30 PM
Totally fair we are not innocent. but this guy ...
Parent - - By JimGo1 Date 2017-08-28 5:55 PM
Definitely but if you look at what Justin Trudeau is doing things are definitely moving in the right direction - towards self government and better services.   Harper (conservative) was horrible for First Nations.   I'm not sure how the US does in this regard but I'm skeptical they are better than Canada but could definitely be wrong - not sure at all.
Parent - - By sideshowbob Date 2017-08-28 7:03 PM
I'm not saying we USers are any better , but there is an old Chemist line about people in glass houses shouldn't  play with hydrofluoric acid .:wink:
Parent - - By BrookieCookie (Canadian Beaver) Date 2017-08-28 7:13 PM
Well the US has committed its fair share of atrocities against its First Nations communities. And we don't have an open racist as our elected and supported head of state. That's not to say we couldnt wind up in the same boat, though. That's partly what I find so scary.
Parent - By sideshowbob Date 2017-08-29 4:41 AM
I agree with you about being scared. Yes, our president is openly racist,but he is an opportunist , among other  things . What I find so very discouraging is that he tapped onto the more hidden racism of many of my fellow Americans , I guess many of us thought that electing a black president , who did a great job for 8 years , would be a turning point for my country. Alas, we were naive.
Parent - - By mkh (Mr. Fashionista) Date 2017-08-29 7:30 AM
So many Americans aren't so racists.
Parent - - By BrookieCookie (Canadian Beaver) Date 2017-08-29 8:23 AM
I guess it's just most Republicans then? :wtf:
Parent - - By mkh (Mr. Fashionista) Date 2017-08-29 9:14 AM
No, it's not most Republicans either.
Parent - - By BrookieCookie (Canadian Beaver) Date 2017-08-29 9:19 AM
Right ok so they just SUPPORT a blatant racist. What is the difference exactly??
Parent - By mkh (Mr. Fashionista) Date 2017-08-29 9:25 AM
There are hundreds of reasons to support a president.. Yes, trump is an asshole, but thinking it's better to be president then his opponent doesn't mean you support everything he does or stand for. People were given a choice, and they picked and if they continue to support certain aspects of his agenda, they can support him, but that doesn't mean they support and are all aspects of him.  I would have supported Bill Clinton doesn't mean I support adultery or that I am an adulterer.
Parent - By JimGo1 Date 2017-08-29 6:03 PM
I don't see a big difference.   Its really a wake up call and a reminder of how people can be manipulated to do things morally wrong and rationalize it.
Parent - By sideshowbob Date 2017-08-28 5:20 PM
I expect little opposition from the GOP unless they fear that the  2018 congressional elections will favor the Democrats
Parent - - By mkh (Mr. Fashionista) Date 2017-08-29 7:30 AM
Because he hasn't done anything to be impeached?:wtf:
Parent - - By triplejake (The Vampire Lestat) [us] Date 2017-08-29 9:05 AM
Obstruction of justice would be grounds for impeachment if Congress wanted to pursue it.
Parent - - By mkh (Mr. Fashionista) Date 2017-08-29 9:14 AM
Good luck with that. While I disagree with just about all Trump has said and done, the idea of impeachment proceedings at this point is just silly. Liberals would be better off not getting constantly distracted by his stupid tirades on twitter and focus on real things, one of which is find viable candidates to run against republicans in 2018. And by that I don't mean people who are just going to draw a ton of support from the further left aspects of the Dem party. You will continue to alienate those they need to win. There is a reason Trump one. it's not because people are racist. It's not because people are stupid (though man many people are) it's because Dems put up a bad candidate who ran a bad campaign and ignored swaths of people.

They'd also do good to shut these fucking Antifa groups down. And I mean hard.
Parent - - By BrookieCookie (Canadian Beaver) Date 2017-08-29 9:20 AM
Ok this is helpful I can agree with some of this. I didn't and don't like Hilary either.
Parent - - By mkh (Mr. Fashionista) Date 2017-08-29 9:25 AM
To be fair, what you think doesn't matter, you are a maple syrup smelling Canadian. : pbbt:
Parent - - By The Beard (is wearing Arm Panties) [us] Date 2017-08-29 9:34 AM
I'm getting stronger whiffs of Molson than syrup.
Parent - By mkh (Mr. Fashionista) Date 2017-08-29 9:36 AM
:hug:
Parent - By BrookieCookie (Canadian Beaver) Date 2017-08-29 9:38 AM
Indeed :sad: But when NK drops the bomb we are close enough to the border that it matters to me! :cry:
Parent - By The Beard (is wearing Arm Panties) [us] Date 2017-08-29 9:31 AM
There is a reason Trump one.

Moran.
Parent - By The Beard (is wearing Arm Panties) [us] Date 2017-08-29 9:33 AM
I don't think that impeachment proceedings are as far fetched as you do but I agree with everything else that you said.

It's been happening on a smaller scale in Wisconsin for years. Scott Walker has stayed governor largely because the Democrats simply can not get their sh*t together.
Parent - - By triplejake (The Vampire Lestat) [us] Date 2017-08-29 9:42 AM Edited 2017-08-29 9:44 AM
I don't think this Congress is going to impeach Trump because the GOP is not going to impeach a GOP president no matter what he does.  But I think there are a lot of Congress who take obstruction of justice seriously, and if the GOP loses its majority next year, however, then impeachment becomes much more likely, especially if Mueller comes out with indictments and/or a damning report (though, as with Clinton, impeaching the President in the house is easier than removing him from office in the Senate).
Parent - - By BrookieCookie (Canadian Beaver) Date 2017-08-29 9:43 AM
TJ can you please just make the Bad Man go away? :sad::cry:: pbbt:
Parent - By The Beard (is wearing Arm Panties) [us] Date 2017-08-29 9:53 AM
Tooterfish popkin.
- - By cowboyjunkie Date 2017-08-28 7:11 PM
Maybe it will help to write it all out.

Went home this weekend. Since my mom died, I've been  trying to get home every two months or so mainly to check in on my older brother who is high functioning, but mentally disabled. I call him every two weeks to check in. He lives independently but doesn't drive or anything. All the stuff he needs is in walking distance from his apartment but he is somewhat isolated. He's okay is long as his routine is not changed much. The rest of my family live in my hometown with him. Younger brother, sil, nephew and niece. None of them see him or reach out to him in any way until I am home. They live within a few miles. I don't fucking get it. Why can they not have him over or take him out once a month? Is that too much to ask? My younger brother talks a good game. Made him all these promises about being there more for him after my mom died. I also assured him I would come home and check in more often. And I have done that. He pushes back a little.. "You don't need to call".. he did that at first and I told him I wanted to talk to him and now he seems good with it.

I called my younger brother on his lack of contact at the end of my visit. I approached it by saying I didn't understand why he couldn't make an effort once a month to see him or do something with him. They have cats and he likes cats and enjoys spending time at their house. He did this weekend and I could tell he liked it. I am not asking for much I don't think. And it's not like my younger brother is too busy. He said he tried calling my brother at first but my brother told him he didn't have to call. As I mentioned, he did the same thing with me. Part of this is due to how he is conditioned by past practices. You just have to kind of lead him tho and he's fine. Any my younger brother knows this but seems to look for a easy excuse to not have to do anything. It is so fucking frustrating and I know I am wasting my time saying anything because it will not change. I just felt like I had to say something after 1.5 years of this since my mom died.

Maybe I should approach things differently when I go home and instead of making an effort to see everyone, just focus on my older brother. The fucking road only goes one way to my hometown. They have never been here in 20+years.

I gave my niece my mom's car when she died. I did it knowing she would likely fuck things up. A second chance thing. She had totaled her new car a few months prior. Of course, last summer she got a dwi. I am glad she was caught. She has a device in the car now that checks her sobriety. I guess she hardly ever drives which is likely for the best. I knew earlier this summer she broke her knee cap. I found out how this weekend. She was wasted and fell. So she's been out of work for two months. She will be 27 in a couple of weeks. Lives at home. She is sweet but lies a lot like my younger brother. I feel like a fool giving her that car. Picturing this breathalyzer in my mom's car..My brother talked breezily about how they might sell it since my niece doesn't use it. Thing is, it would cost a lot to have the device removed and they would still have to pay some kind of monthly fee as a part of the whole dwi charge for another year I think.. I don't know if anyone is acknowledging she clearly has a problem. She apparently has to go to classes. But she drinks and did when we were out for dinner.

It was a good weekend (I know it may not sound that way) and I did truly enjoy seeing my family but I feel like if I continue to just kind of go along with this pattern, it's not honest. There's this stuff under the surface that is ignored. Like I've been thinking, I don't want to treat everyone to dinner like I often do when my niece is drinking (even tho she's not driving) and my brother also has more beers than anyone should before driving. So, should I just tell them ahead of time before I go home next that I will pick up the tab for myself and my older brother. I don't feel like enabling their crap anymore. I've been stewing on this since I got home yesterday and have been having a hard time sleeping..

I had thought about telling them about the heart stuff that went on with me last month but eff that too. If they don't give a crap about what is going on with my older brother there seems no point in mentioning some serious stuff that happened with me.

I'm really grateful to my friends that helped me with some things during that issue and stepped up in a way my "family" never would.:hug:
Parent - - By BrookieCookie (Canadian Beaver) Date 2017-08-28 7:44 PM
I read all that and I have no advice, but I think you're a great sister and your older brother is lucky to have you. And again I'm sorry about your mom.:hug:
Parent - By cowboyjunkie Date 2017-08-29 6:08 AM
thanks for reading the novel : pbbt: :hug:
Parent - - By LDR (100 Mile Stud) [us] Date 2017-08-29 6:23 AM
So sad.  I like the idea of spending your visits with your older brother and letting the others go their own way.  I've had to do something similar with my youngest brother, though amazingly we have begun connecting like best friends since he got on Facebook a few months ago.  We mostly share music back and forth, but it's a start.  He still won't come to family get togethers, but if I tell him something's going on with mom - health, whatever, he'll try to reach out to her on his own.

:hug: :hug:
Parent - By cowboyjunkie Date 2017-08-29 7:31 AM
:hug:
Parent - - By adamswims (Gone Now Adam! You pick what you want.) Date 2017-08-29 6:59 AM
:hug::hug:

I feel like I understand where you are coming from. I've mentally "written off" plenty of people. We communicate but it's not at anything more than superficial levels. Part of that is me as well...I've got my own issues :shocker!:. But there is only so much you can give and give without receiving something in return. Relationships need a back and forth that add value to all involved...not just 1.
Parent - By cowboyjunkie Date 2017-08-29 7:29 AM
yeah. I certainly have my own issues as well. and until my mom got sick and then died my visits home were infrequent. Over the years it became to best way I could find to deal with my mom's personality that caused a lot of anxiety and was fairly negative over all. I don't have a lot of regret about that. I am not sure there was any other way. My mom could be a great deal of fun to be with and I miss her. I just wish she had been able to be happier in life. And I wish I was more skilled at being able to deal with someone I found difficult and so limited contact.
Parent - - By elmtree Date 2017-08-29 10:37 AM
I would focus more on your older brother. Don't treat the young bro and his family to dinner.  Heck, don't even see them if you don't want to.

:hug:
Parent - - By cowboyjunkie Date 2017-08-29 11:18 AM
I don't want to enable some of the behavior I've observed regarding drinking. My sil was very helpful with my mom at the end. My mom had forbid my younger brother from being there. Long story about his dishonesty etc. He did have the opportunity to make ammends but of course did nothing. Anyway, I would feel badly about turning my back on sil. I really really enjoy my nephew and his girlfriend who are doing well a year out of college and seem to have very good judgement etc. I don't care a lot about seeing my younger brother these days or watching my niece screw up her life.
Parent - - By elmtree Date 2017-08-29 11:37 AM
Can you make arrangements to see SIL separate from your brother?  Same with the nephew & his gf?
Parent - - By cowboyjunkie Date 2017-08-29 11:50 AM
I guess I could. The trips home are pretty brief. Two days usually. So I try to see everyone. I have to stay in a hotel most of the time when I go home and it's too $$ to stay longer. When i think about it, we are still in this pattern of "how" we see each other that we were when my mom was around. We'd all go out to dinner or over to their house on the holidays. Trying to see everyone I'd like to see is hard. There are aunts and my best friend from HS is still there. It's hard to fit it all in and I feel torn in many directions when I go home. Hard to explain the dynamics/logistics of it all. There are times when I have to take care of something specific with my older brother, that I go up and back in a day (8 hr. round trip). We get to take care of whatever and go out to lunch, stop at the cemetery..I don't mind those trips at all and maybe should do more of those than the ones where I am trying to juggle seeing a bunch of people.
Parent - - By elmtree Date 2017-08-29 12:22 PM
I like this idea, even though it means lots of car time.
Parent - By cowboyjunkie Date 2017-08-29 12:33 PM
yeah. actually writing this stuff has helped me sort through how I may want to do things going forward :hug:
Parent - - By Nomad Date 2017-08-29 1:04 PM
My situation is completely different but with the same feeling of being torn in many directions when going home. At least I used to feel that way.  I'm on a different continent from my entire family & have been for most of the last 20 years. After the first few years of going back to work more tired than I'd left on vacation due to trying to see everyone I now make it known when I'll be in the UK and in which location. I've made it clear that my priority is to see my parents every time (except work visits that are to London only) since my mother can't travel to me easily - everyone else is welcome to make arrangements to visit them when I'm there or contact me to meet up somewhere else but unless you gave birth to me or have had a near-death experience you don't get me visiting you. Some relatives took it better than others : pbbt: but it's worked pretty well overall since those that took it worse were unsurprisingly those I wasn't that bothered about seeing anyway.

That may or may not work well for you but I hope you find a solution that doesn't make the trips home more stressful than a source of joy :hug:
Parent - By cowboyjunkie Date 2017-08-29 2:00 PM
thanks. i hope I can get better at voicing this to the people who need to hear it and drawing a line of what I am willing to do. :hug:
Parent - - By Arimathea [us] Date 2017-08-29 2:56 PM
See your older brother and don't make an effort to see younger brother and his family -- let them do a bit of reaching out.

Especially don't enable their drinking. They can pay for their own alcohol.

You are a good sister to your older brother.
Parent - By cowboyjunkie Date 2017-08-29 5:54 PM
:hug:
Parent - - By triplejake (The Vampire Lestat) [us] Date 2017-08-29 3:15 PM
Wow, that is hard stuff CJ.  I guess there are no great options, either.  Seems like it makes sense to just focus on your older brother for the time being; maybe the others will come around over time -- things change that way sometimes.  :wtf:

:hug:
Parent - By cowboyjunkie Date 2017-08-29 5:54 PM
:hug:
Parent - - By tizzy319 (gaping five hole) [us] Date 2017-08-30 10:34 AM
No advice, just internet love.  :hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:
Parent - By cowboyjunkie Date 2017-08-31 6:58 AM
:hug:
Parent - By noel (Kilotons of Honky Tonk Badonkadonk) Date 2017-09-01 11:27 AM
Oh CJ, I'm thinking of you :hug:
- - By mkh (Mr. Fashionista) Date 2017-08-29 7:31 AM
David Torrence:sad:
Parent - - By insistor (needs a bigger dick) Date 2017-08-29 7:36 AM
I just read about that. I've been trying to look up his results, didn't he win a race in MN? Like TC10 or something?
Parent - By mkh (Mr. Fashionista) Date 2017-08-29 7:40 AM
He was a two time TC 1 mile champ in the late 2010-11 and held the course record for a few years.
Parent - By LDR (100 Mile Stud) [us] Date 2017-08-29 11:26 AM
:sad:
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